My Too Tight Vagina by Dawn D. WilsonVaginismus is the involuntary contraction of the vaginal muscles during sex. Its a psychological disorder that causes the womans vagina to close shut at the sign of penetration. In the tensed up state, inserting anything into the vagina (from a tampon to a penis) is very painful, and sometimes impossible. Many people with vaginismus will define their attempts at sex as hitting a wall. Their vagina is impassible, often thought to be too tight.
My name is Dawn, and I have vaginismus. Within this book you will find the sexually explicit, provocative, and controversial details of my twenty-three years of life. I hold nothing back as I tell the world about my life, living with vaginismus and all of the struggles, triumphs, and heartaches Ive felt as Ive learned to love, and let others love, my too tight vagina.
Busting the Myths Behind Vaginal Tightness
When your vagina feels very tight, as though nothing could go inside, you may have a condition called vaginismus. In almost all cases, the vulva and vagina are completely healthy. Primary vaginismus, where nothing has ever entered the vagina, not even a tampon, is common among girls who have had a very loving, but sometimes over-protective background. They may have grown up with well-meaning but powerful taboos around sex and find it hard to move past that. You can get help if you have vaginismus. Trainers are plastic tubes that allow women to learn to insert something into their vagina.
Almost no vagina is too tight for intercourse. Sometimes, however, you have to help prepare a bit more for penetration. In its unaroused state, the vagina is three to four inches long. That might not seem long enough for some penises or sex toys. It also releases a natural lubricant. Additionally, pain during penetration may be a sign of a condition such as infection, injury, or congenital abnormality. Both events change the shape and tightness of the vagina.
Have a question about sex or sexual health? Send it to sexQs buzzfeed. I don't have sex all that often, but when I do penetration tends to be painful with the exception of a small penis I had sex with that didn't hurt me. I don't bleed from penetration anymore, but I had hoped the pain would be restricted to the first few times I had sex as I "got used to" penetration or whatever, but this hasn't happened. Not all penetration is painful — my fingers and very I mean, VERY small sex toys can go in without any discomfort, but anything bigger is an issue. During sex I normally just put up with it, as the pain isn't as bad after the initial penetration, but it's not exactly fun.
Almost no vagina is too tight for intercourse. Infections, including sexually transmitted infections, don't change the shape or tightness of your vagina. However.
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Treatment for vaginismus
Back to Health A to Z. Vaginismus is when the vagina suddenly tightens up just as you try to insert something into it. It can be painful and distressing, but it can be treated. Vaginismus is the body's automatic reaction to the fear of some or all types of vaginal penetration. Occasionally, you can get vaginismus even if you have previously enjoyed painless penetrative sex.
From my experience working at Lioness , our product uses precision sensors to visualize orgasms —and yes, also see vaginal tightness. Especially the severely misinformed guy on the right…. When most people talk about tightness, they envision that the narrower the passageway, the more friction there would be between the vaginal walls and penis during sex. There are two things that are wrong with this notion. First, the intensity of the squeeze one feels during sex is not based on the width of the vagina, but the motion of the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the vagina see below. Notice that I did not say strong — focusing on only strengthening your pelvic floor muscles with kegels can be counterproductive in some cases. If you did eventually your arm would probably start to hurt, and you might have a hard time carrying objects or typing at your computer.
When it comes to the vagina, there are a lot of myths and misconceptions. Some people, for example, believe that vaginas can lose their elasticity and become loose forever. Your vagina is elastic. This means it can stretch to accommodate things coming in think: a penis or sex toy or going out think: a baby. Your vagina may become slightly looser as you age or have children, but overall, the muscles expand and retract just like an accordion or a rubber band. Tight vaginal muscles, then, could make a sexual encounter painful or impossible to complete. Extreme vaginal tightness could also be a sign of vaginismus.